Wow. Richard doesn’t deserve any kind of good day let alone a Father’s Day. I’d wish him nothing but karma (and she’s a bitch), but it looks like his vile wife has that gig sewn up.
Yeah, they deserve each other all right. I think it's terribly funny that his self righteous wife and daughter who cast so many aspersions upon me are facing jail time for something more heinous and evil than anything I ever did to earn their scorn. Also, I have the inside tip that after they prosecute the two women, they plan on pressing charges on the old man as well for theft. I've seen his text messages where he fully admits to it, so I don't know how well he's coming out of it either.
Damn, girl! I didn’t realize he was that fucked up! You deserve and deserved so much better! And you are a really good writer! Even through the pain, I could follow your story. And I know it’s true. I have other friends that have gone through similar shit and no one can possibly make this shit up unless you’ve been through it! Soon, (I can’t today) we need to dm again! Hopefully you will give me his address since I’m in Michigan and I can go throw eggs on their cars… 💙💙💙
😂 I don't know their physical address but I know they live in Alpena and I know that Jaynee Germond has run for political office there. Thank you for reading and commenting. I would love to talk to you again when you have the time. 🫂
Thanks Wendy. Yes, I don't think he'll ever read these words, but I did need to get this venom out of me, and Father's Day always fills me with so much tension that it was a good reason to let it rip. ❤️
💚 Darling please take this in the best way possible … I don’t remember why I stopped sending my dad Father’s Day cards but I know at that point on I was wishing my mom happy Father’s Day as she raised me and my brother ! I see you as the influence your kids need as they grow up, so badly ! Maybe in that context I should say to you;
Don’t know if I related or not but in the early 60’s, she was a ft secretary at the VA raising two boys without child support, with her attorney co-signing for her to take over the loan for our house we grew up in … I think I grew up okay vs my older brother coming to know (?) that he felt he was gods right hand guy here on earth 🤦🏼 oh well, I’m left now … hugs for you and the kids !
A reminder that a large percentage of us don’t have fathers worthy of the blessing “Happy Father’s Day”. My own daughter won’t wish her father that either for very good reason. I love my dad and forgave him whatever failings he had and we are good. He is 89 now and won’t be around much longer. I am privileged, wish my own daughter could say the same but she can’t because of my bad choices, sigh. Sorry about your dad Blue! Like my ex, he doesn’t know what he lost.
Great essay as always Blue. You are healing with your writing, but of course you know that. That one was particularly bittersweet.
Yes it is bittersweet and I was hesitant to even publish it on Father's Day because I didn't want to upset anyone else with my venom, but there are just things that I need to get out of my mind even if they will never be spoken to or read by the intended recipients. ❤️
Never forget the many, many kids in your boat. You gave them cause to dump the guilt kids carry for the sins of their fathers. So many kids that have to pay right on into adulthood and beyond. They may read this! I did.
How did you survive? Really - I can't imagine living through such insidious treatment. I thought my dad was a POS in many ways but Richard is even worse.
BTW, my husband's name was Richard. I met him as "Dick" but we changed it back to his given name. Funny story behind it. Remind me to tell you sometime. Lol!
Thank you Rosemary. You are right. I'm better off without than having someone in my life who I can't trust will be there for me. Thank you for reading.
This breaks my heart Blue. I read this last night and was so overwhelmed that I couldn’t comment only cry for you and others who have lived such pain and betrayal.
I know it’s for the Great Spirit to judge, but if there’s cosmic justice…,
Hey Blue. I am truly sorry 😞 and sad for all the hurt, and pain and rejection you and your family suffered. It’s an abomination. I feel it because I went through this myself with two real parents. You have my hugs 🤗 and thoughts 💭
Anna, it seems like we have so much in common and even though I hate that you had to suffer through the same things as I did, I count it as a small blessing that here, later in my life, I am finding beautiful souls such as yourself who I never would have met otherwise. That's my silver lining. Thanks for your always thoughtful and kind commentary. I appreciate you. ❤️😻
{{Hugs}} Blue. You have moved on, and just writing this must be cathartic.
I am feeling a little melancholy today because I miss my father - it's the first Father's Day without him. He was the best! Everyone should have a dad like him, but sadly too many don't.
I'm always happy when I hear about people with excellent fathers. I'm glad you were blessed with one. I had just about the best mother any child could ever wish for, so at least I had half the equation nailed. 😊❤️
Wow. Richard doesn’t deserve any kind of good day let alone a Father’s Day. I’d wish him nothing but karma (and she’s a bitch), but it looks like his vile wife has that gig sewn up.
Yeah, they deserve each other all right. I think it's terribly funny that his self righteous wife and daughter who cast so many aspersions upon me are facing jail time for something more heinous and evil than anything I ever did to earn their scorn. Also, I have the inside tip that after they prosecute the two women, they plan on pressing charges on the old man as well for theft. I've seen his text messages where he fully admits to it, so I don't know how well he's coming out of it either.
🎻 Worlds smallest 😁
Damn, girl! I didn’t realize he was that fucked up! You deserve and deserved so much better! And you are a really good writer! Even through the pain, I could follow your story. And I know it’s true. I have other friends that have gone through similar shit and no one can possibly make this shit up unless you’ve been through it! Soon, (I can’t today) we need to dm again! Hopefully you will give me his address since I’m in Michigan and I can go throw eggs on their cars… 💙💙💙
😂 I don't know their physical address but I know they live in Alpena and I know that Jaynee Germond has run for political office there. Thank you for reading and commenting. I would love to talk to you again when you have the time. 🫂
He will likely never see this. But I know how cathartic it can be to just get it out of your brain/body.
Wishing you peace
Thanks Wendy. Yes, I don't think he'll ever read these words, but I did need to get this venom out of me, and Father's Day always fills me with so much tension that it was a good reason to let it rip. ❤️
Karma has a long memory. I hope the ending of your nightmare brings the satisfaction and vindication you so justly deserve. ❤️☮️
💚 Darling please take this in the best way possible … I don’t remember why I stopped sending my dad Father’s Day cards but I know at that point on I was wishing my mom happy Father’s Day as she raised me and my brother ! I see you as the influence your kids need as they grow up, so badly ! Maybe in that context I should say to you;
Happy Father’s Day to you !
💐
Thanks Rick. Their dad is absent in every way possible so I do have to be both mom and dad. Not that I mind. You know. 🥰
Don’t know if I related or not but in the early 60’s, she was a ft secretary at the VA raising two boys without child support, with her attorney co-signing for her to take over the loan for our house we grew up in … I think I grew up okay vs my older brother coming to know (?) that he felt he was gods right hand guy here on earth 🤦🏼 oh well, I’m left now … hugs for you and the kids !
🫂 right back atcha, Rick. 😁
A reminder that a large percentage of us don’t have fathers worthy of the blessing “Happy Father’s Day”. My own daughter won’t wish her father that either for very good reason. I love my dad and forgave him whatever failings he had and we are good. He is 89 now and won’t be around much longer. I am privileged, wish my own daughter could say the same but she can’t because of my bad choices, sigh. Sorry about your dad Blue! Like my ex, he doesn’t know what he lost.
Great essay as always Blue. You are healing with your writing, but of course you know that. That one was particularly bittersweet.
Yes it is bittersweet and I was hesitant to even publish it on Father's Day because I didn't want to upset anyone else with my venom, but there are just things that I need to get out of my mind even if they will never be spoken to or read by the intended recipients. ❤️
Never forget the many, many kids in your boat. You gave them cause to dump the guilt kids carry for the sins of their fathers. So many kids that have to pay right on into adulthood and beyond. They may read this! I did.
❤️🫂 I appreciate you.
How did you survive? Really - I can't imagine living through such insidious treatment. I thought my dad was a POS in many ways but Richard is even worse.
BTW, my husband's name was Richard. I met him as "Dick" but we changed it back to his given name. Funny story behind it. Remind me to tell you sometime. Lol!
Hugs, sweetie!!!
😄 my father's siblings would call him Dick and he hated it so much.
And I LOVE THE CAT PIX and their fine statements!
I'm glad you enjoy my Antifa Cat Brigade. I have fun making them. 😻😁
Powerful rebuke of a person who deserves it. You do reap what you sow. He certainly has. You’re better off cutting him out of your life.
Thank you Rosemary. You are right. I'm better off without than having someone in my life who I can't trust will be there for me. Thank you for reading.
Fuck that guy!
Happy liberation day! (Year 3 for my kiddos 💕)
Viva liberation! 😁✊🏼❤️
Hey now! I was commenting to you, but I think it went to Kay… hey Kay!
I'm so sorry that happened to you 🫂
Thank you Maggie. ❤️
This breaks my heart Blue. I read this last night and was so overwhelmed that I couldn’t comment only cry for you and others who have lived such pain and betrayal.
I know it’s for the Great Spirit to judge, but if there’s cosmic justice…,
Well, given their legal problems of late, it sounds like the cosmos might already be on it. 🤭
Weak salve for such a deep wound
Hey Blue. I am truly sorry 😞 and sad for all the hurt, and pain and rejection you and your family suffered. It’s an abomination. I feel it because I went through this myself with two real parents. You have my hugs 🤗 and thoughts 💭
Anna, it seems like we have so much in common and even though I hate that you had to suffer through the same things as I did, I count it as a small blessing that here, later in my life, I am finding beautiful souls such as yourself who I never would have met otherwise. That's my silver lining. Thanks for your always thoughtful and kind commentary. I appreciate you. ❤️😻
Thank you for being you! I’m glad 😌 I met you.
Likewise, my friend. ❤️🫂
Thank you Blue. We can’t pick our parents but we can our friends and hopefully good ones. I appreciate you too! I find words hard to say. 🤗🫶🏼💕
{{Hugs}} Blue. You have moved on, and just writing this must be cathartic.
I am feeling a little melancholy today because I miss my father - it's the first Father's Day without him. He was the best! Everyone should have a dad like him, but sadly too many don't.
I'm always happy when I hear about people with excellent fathers. I'm glad you were blessed with one. I had just about the best mother any child could ever wish for, so at least I had half the equation nailed. 😊❤️
Glad that your mother was the best!